I love this line from Gone with the Wind. There have been hundreds of times in my life when I wish I would have said this. I didn’t, of course, but boy do I wish I had. I think some times you just have to stop all the conversational nonsense and make a completely clear point. It doesn’t get much clearer than this. I think that’s why men and women struggle with communication. Women like to keep the conversation going as long as possible so that every imaginable emotion can be trotted out, examined and experienced for all it’s worth. Men just want to know when this is going to be over so they can go get a beer or watch the game.
The great part of this line is that Rhett Butler said it and women love that character. Rhett Butler is the ultimate movie bad boy and women everywhere still love him. Why is that? This guy invented the word ” rogue” and no offense to Sarah Palin but she couldn’t go rogue if she paid for a sex change. Rogues are guys through and through and it’s not something you call yourself, it’s something you’re born with and cultivate over a lifetime. Rogues are the guys who stand up and say whatever they feel without regard for how others are going to take it. Brutally honest truth is not something most people can handle but rogues get away with it every day.
The other line from Gone with the Wind that I love is when Rhett is telling Scarlett what he thinks of her and he says, “What you need is to be kissed and often and by somebody who knows how.” How many guys can get away with those words? Of course most women would react with something like, ” I wish I had somebody who knew how to kiss.” If we were all smarter we’d stop talking and start kissing. OK, that’s just my opinion but what the heck do we have to lose. I understand that sharing our feelings with each other is important and guys need to do a much better job of listening but we need an ending not a sequel. Just think about the last scene in Gone with the Wind, Rhett leaves and Scarlett says “I’ll think about this tomorrow.” That’s not resolution, that’s procrastination and that’s why he left.
Ladies, we men are not very complicated creatures. We love women because God made you irresistible to us. In that respect you have a huge advantage over us and you always will. Women with soft skin, long hair, great curves, gorgeous nails, beautiful eyes and moist lips are like the male version of chum for sharks. All of our senses are tuned to pick up the slightest hint of female anatomy and we will gladly drive up a tree if we see you out walking. I wish I could tell you we have a deep emotional need to be spiritually connected to our significant others but the truth is we’re pretty shallow, I’m thinking low tide in Nova Scotia.
Someone once said, “Love teaches asses to dance.” This is the best explanation I can give for how our minds work. We only dance because you want us to and we get to be that much closer to you while you’re not talking. We are biologically hard-wired to require a reasonable amount of physical contact in order to survive. Guys that risk their lives like firemen, policemen and soldiers aren’t natural risk takers, they’re just trying to improve their odds of attracting beautiful women. It doesn’t hurt that they get to be around guns and fires and explosions but deep down it’s about females. If you put the most average looking guy in a uniform his chance of getting lucky goes up astronomically. If he has to run into a burning house to save Fluffy or some furniture that just comes with the uniform.
Look, we really do want the women in our lives to be happy. No guy looks forward to being around an unhappy female. We will even listen to you go on and on about your feelings because we still want you, remember you’re irresistible. At the end of the day, no matter how bad you feel we will still be happy to take you to bed. All you have to do is ask. Who am I kidding? All you have to do is flip your hair or lick your lips. We’re not deep thinkers but that doesn’t mean we’re not deeply in love with you. Most guys don’t want to have lots of women they just want to have one woman a lot. So if you want us to be there for you when it’s bad just make sure you’re there for us when it’s good.
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