I give up. Why do women do this so often? Males, age 18-25, are barely above orangutans in evolutionary terms but females hardly ever take this into consideration when contemplating prospective mates. It seems they only care about our potential to become a good husband, provider, father and lifelong soul mate not our limited social skills and mental capacity. Since when did drinking, carousing, swearing and passing out become a good indication of future partner potential? Ladies, this is the most important thing to remember, “What you see, is what you get.”
Young guys can be trained to perform some useful tricks (take out the trash, get the mail, mow the lawn etc.) but it requires more painstaking effort than most women are willing to undertake. Wouldn’t it be easier if you just let us mature naturally? Usually, by age 30, guys have rounded into semi-functional, mostly intelligible creatures who are a vast improvement over their 20 something counterparts or else they’re gay. Either way, at least now you have full disclosure regarding their potential. Waiting that extra 5 years makes all the difference in the world, so what’s your hurry?
Unfortunately, women possess the world’s loudest biological clock which tolls like Big Ben as each birthday passes. They can’t stand the thought of waiting till they’re 30 to settle down and then wait even longer to have kids. So they settle on some poor schmuck who has no relationship skills whatsoever. If you think I’m exaggerating please look at the divorce rate for first time marriages. Relationships are hard and they don’t get easier over time. If the guy you’re dating has trouble remembering to call you within the prescribed period that shows how much he loves you, then I’m pretty sure he may not remember your birthday or anniversary 10 years later. So why do you think this revelation is so shocking? Do you think orangutans remember birthdays?
I didn’t become a father till I was 31 and it’s a good thing. I was not the least bit ready to accept that much responsibility in my 20’s. It probably would have ended badly for all of us and then I would have missed out on the best years of my life. Men are like scotch, the right amount of aging is critical to getting a good one. It takes 8 years of doing nothing to get scotch to taste right. They don’t open the barrel and stir it up either, they leave it alone. Of course, if you can’t wait that long then just grab some no name label and go for it but don’t complain when you end up with a terrible hangover.
Maybe we all need to relax our standards a bit. I mean women aren’t exactly perfect either. I think women have a lot more potential for relationships than men do but women have some really strange expectations when it comes to their significant others. When my wife comes to me with some major crisis and asks for my advice, the last thing she wants is my advice. What she really wants is my empathy. My problem solving skills are of no interest to her but I have to sit and listen and agree with whatever is bothering her. This is the most counter- intuitive process any male can endure. If our eyes roll back in our heads after 15 minutes and we stop breathing, please get a clue. Empathy in guys is in short supply. After that much time, the sleep mode takes over and we have to be rebooted.
For the most part I have enjoyed being married and raising a family. I have learned to bite my tongue when we argue as a couple. I’m 56 now so that means I’m almost completely out of my adolescence. I hardly ever worry about how much beer is in the fridge or who’s pitching tonight. The NFL draft was last week and I only watched the first round. That’s real progress. In years to come I hope to be able to fold the laundry properly and not weed-eat so many flowers or break so many dishes. Writing this blog has certainly done wonders for my sensitive side. I actually use words like empathy and compassion in complete sentences now. I still struggle to listen attentively when my wife talks but at least I don’t have to imagine her naked just to pass the time. We men really do have a lot of upside potential, women just need to remember, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
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